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A boundary reflects what you will accept around what does and does not feel OK for you. A rule is looking to control someone’s actions. Now this can feel sticky or fuzzy, but it’s important to look at how we frame boundaries. Understanding the difference between boundaries and rules will help you implement boundaries. This will also ultimately help you in taking steps when interacting with someone who doesn’t respect boundaries. As an example, a rule might be “you can’t talk about my body,” whereas a boundary is, “I will not engage in or listen to conversations about my body.” This gives you the control to decide what limits work for you, and what actions you wish to take. Setting a boundary is setting an expectation around what your desires and needs are. It is being clear about what you will and will not accept. Understanding this concept will help you understand where your control lies, and help you to feel less powerless. 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If so, how true is this obligation? -What am I willing to tolerate? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1655146474471-LZW8RD69S48NQ9AAQO3T/violating-boundaries-authority-min.jpg Blog - How to Deal with Someone Who Doesn’t Respect Boundaries - The person who is not respecting your boundaries is in a position of authority: This can be tricky, I know. This may mean that your boss is disrespecting your boundaries. Or it could mean a respected family member. Or it could be someone in an organization that is important to you. It may also tie into dynamics around race, gender, sexuality, or other societal hierarchies (which while they are arbitrary based on societal stories, can still have an impact). Again, these are the times to explore what is and is not within your control. You may want to look at ways of stepping away from those scenarios. That said, if it is not possible, look at what you can do to help you cope in the meantime. Sometimes recognizing the places you have control can help you feel less powerless in the long run. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1655160803083-C7KTYGRDTB48QA36AQ4T/disrespecting-boundaries-licensed-therapist.jpg Blog - How to Deal with Someone Who Doesn’t Respect Boundaries - Kate O’Brien, LCAT Kate is a licensed therapist in New York. She works with people who grew up in challenging families, who have experienced emotional trauma or neglect, and grief. Learn more here or schedule a consult call here if interested in working with her. https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/blog/fear-disappointment monthly 0.5 2023-02-27 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1650553164610-0Q3URLTW75G27IDLJS7K/I-disappoint-everyone+%281%29.jpg Blog - When You Have a Fear of Disappointing Others Sometimes the fear of disappointing others can come from growing up in a family where there was a lot of expectation put on you. Perhaps you were a caretaker, and you were rewarded for helping others. Perhaps you felt responsible for the happiness of others in your family because there were other difficult dynamics at play. It’s not uncommon for kids to want to make caregivers happy, especially when their caregivers are stressed in other ways. The fear of disappointing others can also be a sign that you didn’t feel accepted for who you were growing up. Perhaps you grew up in spaces where your mistakes were scrutinized. Perhaps you grew up being put down when you tried to be yourself. Perhaps you were compared to siblings or peers, and left feeling like you were “less than.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1650558179123-G476G9ABIY9Z0DC8EY3V/fear-disappointing-others.jpg Blog - When You Have a Fear of Disappointing Others Remember that you are not responsible for other people’s emotions. Now, I’ve had many conversations about this idea, and it definitely deserves more nuance than what I just wrote, but I want to remove you from the responsibility of making sure everybody’s emotions are regulated and OK. Do your actions and choices impact other people’s feelings? Yes. Does that mean that you need to move in a way that is always trying to avoid disappointing others one hundred percent of the time? No. You can move with kindness and empathy towards others while still making the right choices for yourself. Ultimately, it is the responsibility of the person with the challenging feelings to find ways to cope and regulate their own experience. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1650553488750-36XXUDBWS0YJ9997C6WH/fear-of-letting-others-down.jpg Blog - When You Have a Fear of Disappointing Others What I can offer is that it’s OK to start small. When you take steps to do the hard things, you may start to understand the difference between what is uncomfortable, and what is dangerous. You might start by asking for something different for dinner than what your partner requests. It could mean saying no to a social gathering. It might mean when a coworker asks you to do something for them, letting them know you don’t have the bandwidth right now. Notice that while it may feel uncomfortable, it is survivable. And if you need to, you can take steps to remind yourself that you are OK. That could mean meditating, taking a walk and noticing how your body feels as it moves, or putting a weighted blanket on your lap. Sometimes reminding our bodies that we are OK helps us remember that we are indeed, OK. I also want to let you know that if it makes other people uncomfortable when you express a wish or need, that does not mean that you shouldn’t express it. Your needs are just as important as the needs of others. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1650559032313-58BS8L0SD06QJDU5ZDNA/licensed-therapist-nyc Blog - When You Have a Fear of Disappointing Others - Kate O’Brien, LCAT Kate is a licensed therapist in New York. She works with people who grew up in challenging families, who have experienced emotional trauma or neglect, codependency and grief. Learn more here or schedule a consult call here if interested in working with her. https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/blog/the-grief-in-acknowledging-your-parents-didnt-give-you-what-you-needed monthly 0.5 2021-07-02 https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/blog/what-is-the-difference-between-codependency-and-dependence monthly 0.5 2023-02-27 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1665004950062-NJ5G3XNOEVTE7BXN5DE2/Can-codependency-be-healthy-1 Blog - Can codependency be healthy? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1665005232484-3ACX8OH9CZT78MKVWMAN/Can-codependency-be-healthy-2 Blog - Can codependency be healthy? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1665005382060-9FYF66T7GO34M01G2Y3J/can-codependency-be-healthy-3 Blog - Can codependency be healthy? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1665005525324-PXEY6QNH0U8Z0ULIE6HO/can-codependency-be-healthy-4 Blog - Can codependency be healthy? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1665005795889-SUE7JLPQ5EB7QBN92R22/kate-o%27brien-codependency-therapist Blog - Can codependency be healthy? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/home daily 1.0 2024-10-01 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1663861880634-CNTASH15T4RJWL3P30OP/therapist-nyc.jpg Home Portrait of elegant therapist wearing suit standing holding coffee cup and a folder and looking at camera. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1611246781135-CUVYNMJG66O596GNJGHF/depression-therapy-1 Home - Why therapy with Kate? I am passionate about how therapy can change lives for the better. I have seen this with my clients, and have experienced this in my own personal therapy. I’ve learned that being able to articulate and examine life challenges are often only one piece of the puzzle. Healing also includes feeling, moving, creating, exploring. I love companioning people in the therapy space, helping to more deeply understand and navigate emotional experiences, and finding paths to what is healthy for each individual. I invite you to join me in a shame-free space, where we use compassion and curiosity on the way to healing. https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/about daily 0.75 2025-12-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/b1f9d7a2-d695-443c-8add-441846211e25/IMG_20210315_093623_267+%281%29-min.jpg About - Hi, I’m Kate, a therapist in NYC My approach to therapy is compassionate and trauma informed. Therapy is a space to explore the various parts of yourself in a way that is shame free. My goal is to help you explore and move through your struggles and to celebrate your joy. All of your parts are welcome here. I’m a New York based, licensed therapist who supports others in moving through and healing from trauma. I help others break free from patterns that no longer serve them, to live more authentic, fulfilling lives. My hope is that in working together, you will find you are able to feel more sure in yourself. I specialize in trauma, family of origin challenges, codependency and grief. I especially love helping people break free from the doubt and shame that are holding them back. I help people begin to trust themselves, and to heal from the hurts of the past. I believe that while we have the capacity for individual choice, we also interact in systems- families, communities, societal constructs- that will impact our experiences. I believe that many of the choices that we make come from a place of trying to survive in the best way we know how, and that sometimes the things that helped us in the past no longer serve us. Looking at this space of tension is where there is opportunity for healing and growth. I view therapy through a client-centered, anti-oppressive, trauma informed lens. As a white, non-disabled, cisgender woman, I recognize that anti-oppression is part of my ongoing active work of learning and deconstructing, both inside of and outside of the therapy space. Let’s connect. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1611247237396-2Q9UONBLIX9EDU8W749S/Kate-OBrien-therapist-nyc-1 About - Education and Qualifications My degrees in Psychological Services and Music Therapy laid the groundwork for me as a therapist. Since that time I have studied IFS, psychodrama, the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM), Somatic Experiencing, Attachment Focused EMDR, and vocal psychotherapy. My approach is informed by using parts work and somatic therapies. I use a trauma informed lens, and my stance is anti-oppressive. Through learning from anti-racist educators, disability advocates, and the LGBTQ+ community, I have learned to more deeply look at how the systems we operate in affect individuals. While I love learning the reasons why things work, my work directly with clients, in hospitals, in new parent groups, internationally, and one on one with people who want to make change have been some of my biggest influences. https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/faqs daily 0.75 2025-03-26 https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/contact daily 0.75 2021-02-15 https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/get-started daily 0.75 2021-01-15 https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/our-approach daily 0.75 2021-01-22 https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/instagramlanding daily 0.75 2021-08-02 https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/trauma-therapy daily 0.75 2024-05-17 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1657805486127-BGDYHJMJF20JPL2GG9PU/trauma-therapist-NY Trauma Therapy https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/codependency-therapy daily 0.75 2022-08-25 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1657805604635-H217EC7BOAOXYLRMV45Y/Codependency-therapist-NY Codependency Therapy https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/anxiety-therapy daily 0.75 2022-07-14 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1657805778908-NQ533SASMB1SOIQENOOB/Anxiety-therapy-NY Anxiety Therapy https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/depression-therapy daily 0.75 2022-07-14 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1657805707129-HUMPNJ6CR89MZNKBDO3M/depression-therapy-ny Depression Therapy https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/grief-therapy daily 0.75 2023-04-06 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/0e0c7e69-ef34-4852-b619-47a2820562b5/grief-counseling-nyc Grief Therapy https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/about-1 daily 0.75 2022-06-27 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1589847904871-IJY33BXSJQA0OIFROI1H/image-asset.jpeg About 1 - It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do. https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/somatic-therapy daily 0.75 2025-12-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1656357424150-NDN5UY0KQY7OL5G7HU3P/Somatic-therapy-nyc Somatic Therapy - Somatic Therapy in New York When words aren’t enough. When you can name all the reasons why you are hurting, but that doesn’t seem to help you heal. When you’re so tired of old emotional wounds impacting your current life. Together, using somatic therapy, we can find where your body hold old hurts, and teach it how to move through them to thrive. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1656357076217-X5047BG4ZUOYE2N7MUNM/Kate-somatic-psychotherapist-NYC Somatic Therapy You may be feeling you’ve thought a lot about what you want to change, but you can’t seem to change your patterns. You may be feeling like you’ve talked at length about what hurts, but you still can’t get past it. You may be feeling like you’ve tried just talking in therapy, and it doesn’t feel like enough. You may be feeling like you’re having strong emotional reactions to things, and you can’t figure out how to react differently. I understand, and I’m here to help. I help people connect to their feelings in order to change patterns that aren’t serving them. I hope that in working together, we can help you find ways of coping and moving forward, letting go of feelings of shame, fear, and self judgment. Let’s work to move you towards a life you want to be living. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1656356914636-OP0LNRO8PEQJSU5M2BUG/somatic-psychotherapy-nyc Somatic Therapy - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/parts-work-therapy daily 0.75 2023-03-21 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1656359185057-ZP7SJT8G7WGK85BZP6NN/Parts-work-therapy Parts Work Therapy - Parts Work Therapy in New York When you can’t figure out why you seem to keep falling into actions and patterns you don’t like. When you feel conflicted because you are torn between different ideas and choices. When things that seemed to help before are no longer helping. Parts work therapy, using the IFS framework, lets us meet ourselves with curiosity and compassion, helping us move towards making choices that feel more grounded and healthy. Let’s work together in exploring the many parts that make up you, to help you life the life that feels right for you. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1656357076217-X5047BG4ZUOYE2N7MUNM/Kate-somatic-psychotherapist-NYC Parts Work Therapy Hi, my name is Kate, and I’m a parts work therapist. You may be feeling like there are parts of yourself that bring up shame. You may be feeling like you keep repeating patterns you don’t like, and you don’t know why. You may be feeling like your past experiences are holding you back from living the life you want. I understand, and I’m here to help. I help people understand themselves and make changes in a shame free space. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1656360100976-T6ECA2JA9QWUMC2OTYA3/parts-work-therapy-nyc Parts Work Therapy - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/psychodynamic-therapy daily 0.75 2023-03-21 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1656512745847-GRZB2NVQK63KEOXNLZJ7/psychodynamic-therapy-nyc Psychodynamic Therapy - Psychodynamic Therapy in New York When you want to understand why you keep repeating patterns. When you want to unravel your past, your patterns and relationships, to figure out why you’ve done what you’ve done… and to understand what you want to do the same and differently going forward. Together, let’s work to understand what makes you tick, and from there, you can decide how you want heal from or shift your patterns and dynamics from the past. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1656357076217-X5047BG4ZUOYE2N7MUNM/Kate-somatic-psychotherapist-NYC Psychodynamic Therapy Hi, my name is Kate, and I’m a psychodynamic therapist in NYC. You may be feeling like you keep repeating unwanted patterns. You may be feeling like the past keeps negatively impacting you in the present moment. You may be feeling like you don’t know how to break free from family dynamics and relationship patterns. I understand, and I’m here to help. I help people understand how experiences and systems impact them, move through challenging feelings and break unwanted patterns. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1656513762108-S3DL1OCNGV3XCBLSXNPE/therapy-NYC Psychodynamic Therapy - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.kateobrienlcat.com/music-therapy daily 0.75 2023-05-08 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1657807679701-7L6798NIF3H2VJ74BF6R/music-therapy-NY Music Therapy - Music Therapy in New York When the words don’t feel like enough. When you find the connection to music helps you connect to yourself. When you want a therapeutic space to hold room for creativity beyond talking. Together, we can explore through playing, listening or writing, how music can help move you towards healing. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1656357076217-X5047BG4ZUOYE2N7MUNM/Kate-somatic-psychotherapist-NYC Music Therapy You may be feeling uncertain of yourself. You may be having trouble trusting your own voice. You may be feeling like you need new and different ways to heal your emotional wounds. I understand, and I’m here to help. 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When you can name all the reasons why you are hurting, but that doesn’t seem to help you heal. When you’re stuck with the pain of past hurts continuing to hold you back from the life you want. Together, using EMDR therapy, we can help you move through trauma towards healing. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/1656357076217-X5047BG4ZUOYE2N7MUNM/Kate-somatic-psychotherapist-NYC EMDR Therapy You may be feeling like you’ve been trying to heal for so long, but talking about it doesn’t shift anything. You may be feeling like you understand your hurts, but understanding isn’t enough to help you move forward. You may be feeling like you’re having strong emotional reactions to things, and you can’t figure out how to react differently. I understand, and I’m here to help. I help people connect to and process their feelings using Attachment Focused EMDR therapy, a somatic technique, in order to change patterns that aren’t serving them. I hope that in working together, we can help you find ways of coping and moving forward, letting go of feelings of shame, fear, and self judgment. Let’s work to move you towards a life you want to be living. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f56b3bf9518bb5449db5914/fb824a07-b995-4355-9008-63a340174a2e/EMDR-Therapy-NYC EMDR Therapy - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.